If there is one thing I’ve learned as a mom, and I’ve definitely learned it the hard way, it’s that if you want to stay home with your kids AND work, you better be organized. You better have a plan, schedule, routine in place or you’re going to constantly be stressed out and feeling like the worlds worst parent. Even as I write this I feel like a hypocrite because I know what to do, and my son and I do have a partial routine, but a lot of our day is still very unplanned and it’s caused me nothing but stress and heartache to live this way.
Even though I’ve always used planners as more of a reminder list for things I need to get done, I’m learning now to be a time management ninja and actually decide WHEN I will do each activity. Honestly, the more detailed you can be the better if you want to be a mom (or dad) who can truly “do it all”.
Now, I’m not saying that you need be busy 100% of the day. Actually, that’s a good way to get burnt out. No- you need to include personal time for yourself and your hobbies, even if that hobby is just sitting on your butt watching your favorite TV show. Whatever helps you to relax and rejuvenate needs a spot on that schedule.
Great! How do I get started?
I’m all about making things as easy and efficient as possible, so the first thing I do is make a list of things that I want to get done on a typical day. Here is a sample list of mine (in no particular order):
2. My Blog
3. Skill Building/Play Time with my son
4. Outdoor Time with my son
5. Reading with my son
7. “Me” Time
8. Meal Prep
Then I plan my day, hour by hour, by what I’m going to work on and at what time and that way I can try to make time for everything. Do I get it perfect every day? Of course not! In fact, some days are a mess. That’s okay! The more I try it, the more I learn what works for us and what doesn’t and I can improve our daily flow. Practice makes perfect! By the time we’re ready for our second child, I should be far less of a dumpster fire parent!
Look- it’s easy to get wrapped up in your work and neglect your family. Sometimes you get off track so many times that you just want to give up, but you’ll never reach your DREAM potential if you fail to plan. You have to prioritize and be intentional about your days. What I do is I plan to work when my son is asleep or not home. Maybe that seems like a no-brainer to you, but to me, it can be a difficult concept to implement. When it comes to chores or meals, it’s okay if he’s interrupting me every few minutes, but when I’m working, if I can’t have uninterrupted concentration, nothing is getting done.
It’s also worth mentioning that you need to sleep. Sorry to break it to you, but you’re not a vampire! You won’t be writing that best-seller while everyone sleeps. So do yourself a favor, and set a wake-up and bedtime that gives you 6-8 hours of sleep every day. Not to mention the fact that doing this will help you adapt more easily to a daily routine.
Now that you are a time-management ninja, go get em’ mom!